Posted by BeardedLady on August 15, 2002, at 7:14:31
In reply to Re: administrative issues, posted by Dr. Bob on August 14, 2002, at 22:50:51
> If I were selling those shakes, his comment wouldn't have made me feel supported... Especially after my post had already been flagged, yes, that was part of the context.
If you were selling those shakes, another Dr. Bob would have warned you about selling those shakes, and you'd have felt completely embarassed or caught or whatever--anything but supported. And if Colin made his pun, you'd have probably chuckled and realized the people on the board had their attention diverted from you to a funny joke NOT ABOUT YOU.
> I also still think it's counterproductive to spend too much time and energy on administrative issues, tempting though it may be.
Well of course you do, especially when you make judgment calls like these with which everyone disagrees.
> The focus should be on support and education.
You are right. And maybe that could include you? You expect both of us, and we'd like to see that you can be supportive of the people who use your site, especially when so many of us have come here to say what you've done was unfair.
Colin's comment wasn't leading anywhere. It didn't need to be stopped before it escalated. It was a pun--a play on words--not a sarcastic comment about the person who posted the original words. And if you want us to be supportive and educate, maybe you could lead by example--by learning from this mistake? By not jumping to negative conclusions about posters? By not just listening to us when we tell you something was unfair, but by actually correcting your mistake?
It's a perfectly healthy and wonderful thing to say to yourself: Hmmm...twelve or so people, including those who normally don't post here, thought I was wrong about this. Maybe I'll stop it before it goes any further by allowing Colin to come back and apologizing. And it's even better to act on it.
poster:BeardedLady
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