Posted by beardedlady on July 31, 2002, at 20:09:13
In reply to Re: Oh but beardy » beardedlady, posted by shar on July 31, 2002, at 18:54:45
> ....well, the point of this post is to question the usefulness of bringing up the past, and presenting it to people (some, not me, of course, might say 'throwing it in people's faces'). It does not seem to serve any particular purpose.Shar:
It's not a poke; it's a reminder. And I find a great bit of usefulness in it. We often remind other people of what they've promised or said or threatened, especially if they seem to have genuinely forgotten or if they go against their word or gang up on others for doing similar things. And I don't find anything wrong with it.
> What do you get out of doing it? Do you have a purpose in doing it? Do you believe that people have forgotten what they've said before and need reminding? Or, is there a larger point that I just don't grasp? I'm curious because you have done the same thing to me (the 'you previously said' thing), and it just felt like a poke.
And what did you just do? Didn't you remind me of something I said in a previous post? You'll find it an inescapable and necessary part of dialogue. Almost every bit of writing on this board discusses something someone previously said. And I don't need to ask what your purpose is for doing it. I don't think you should need to question mine. They are exactly the same.
I believe I also said that I didn't think it was fair of you to have called the posters who chose to leave "selfish," and I asked you to look at it with a little more compassion. You didn't respond to that. And Ron has never responded when several of us asked him why he continued to threaten Dr. Bob with an investigation of his site by lawyers. That's your right and his. But unanswered concerns like that often lead to bad feelings. It's sort of like being snubbed by someone at a party and running into that person somewhere else. The face often triggers a bad feeling before the memory of the incident even returns.
I hope this answers your questions.
beardy
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