Posted by Greg on July 24, 2002, at 8:32:36
In reply to Re: pressure, posted by Dr. Bob on July 24, 2002, at 1:41:25
> > Why is it myself, KK and others can ask questions of Mr. Pilder, civily I might add, and you instruct us to not pressure him. But he asks for clarifications of questions of nearly every post made to him and never receives a warning. Am I missing something here?
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> Are you saying that his responding to posts by asking for clarifications should be considered pressure?
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> BobIf I can't ask him nicely why he hasn't fulfilled a promise he made to this community almost 7 months ago without it being considered to be pressuring him, then I would have to consider his asking for clarifications to what I consider to be clear-cut questions pressure as well. So I guess my answer to your question would be yes.
I am an adult, if he doesn't want to answer my question, all he has to do is say so and I'll stop asking.
Bob, this isn't about my getting a PBC. There's been times when I've made questionable posts where I felt I should have gotten one and didn't. I've taken a hiatus away from the sites I frequent, I even left ASH. But I'm feeling like ready to return now. What I don't want is to feel like everytime I post here I have to stop and read, reread and read again before I submit my post. Support isn't always wrapped in a hug, sometimes it comes in some very tough ways. You know that. But I think most of us here are intelligent enough to know where to draw the line between tough support and hatefulness. There was a time when you let the members here work out there own problems and only stepped in when it was absolutely necessary, and that worked out well for the most part. Now it seems that you jump in at what you percieve to be the first sign of trouble, and IMHO that's not working at all. I can only speak for myself, but it makes me feel very untrusted. Rules are a necessary part of a site like this, but too many rules are killing the very essence of what makes this site special and different from the rest. I percieve you to be an intelligent man, you know when it's the right time to draw the line.
I do want to thank you for the time and the effort you put into running this site, I know it's a daunting task. Consider giving the members here a little more leeway, let us work out our problems. If there's something we can't handle, we'll ask for help. It worked before, it can work again.
Greg
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