Posted by beardedlady on July 8, 2002, at 14:27:07
In reply to Re: proselytizing » beardedlady, posted by Lini on July 8, 2002, at 13:16:16
> Actually, I wasn't talking at all about Lou's right to express his opinion or not, I was more talking about the fact that it is his *style* of expressing himself that seems to make things difficult for other people. The right to an opinion, and your expression of an opinion are two different things . . . given that Lou seems to have a particular style, it probably makes sense for those that don't enjoy it, to not converse with him. SD asked for a long-story-short and Lou basically said that in order to answer her question, he had to give a long story. That's his style when asked questions, I am not sure there is much we can do about that (as SD learned!).
I have said the same things you have said.
> If I asked you to answer a question for me about depression, but said, put your answer in haiku form, well . . . you could, or you could just answer the question to the best of your ability. Either way, I wouldn't think you were being unsupportive simply because you didn't write in the style that I asked for. I would probably just ignore all non-haiku responses! ;)There's probably a difference between asking for all responses to be haikus and asking for people NOT to respond in a certain way. The first might get one or two responses, as it would be answered only by those who could write a haiku (or would want to try). The person who asks for help of a non-relgious nature would be able to get a bunch of non-religious suggestions.
> In the same vein, I wouldn't think it was unsupportive for me to ask for you to respond in haiku form, it's a request, not a mandate. (this is why I disagree with Dr. Bob's block of SD).Why would anyone even consider the request unsupportive? I can't quite figure out what the argument is, since you and I seem to be in agreement. Sandra Dee never should have been blocked.
> In regards to proselytizing, I don't think it is something that a person can do if they are the one that was asked the question.
My point is that some questions are not being asked to one person specifically; they're posed to EVERYONE on the board. Everyone has a right to answer them. But it becomes proselytizing when the same person says the same thing each time--to every poster on every thread.
My argument was with Dr. Bob, not with you. I wanted to know the difference between what the nice guy on the med board did when he put a Salvation Army quote at the bottom of each post and what Lou does.
>And, just because his posts are long, multifaceted, hard to follow, predictable or whatever, doesn't mean that he is proselytizing. (Though that is what proselytizing has always sounded like to me!)
No one said the length of the posts was the problem.
> If you ask a question, especially about something as sensitive as religion, well, you might not like the answer and I don't think that is anyone's fault. SD wanted to bow out after she learned about Lou's style. Then she wanted to try asking again. I don't see anything wrong with either of it.
Me either. All I'm saying is that, at some point, it becomes proselytizing.
> Um, I think my point is that I don't think either parties were "unsupportive" necessarily, it was just a conversation between two people with different styles of conversing.
Okay. But I think it's more than that.
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