Posted by jay on July 7, 2002, at 5:05:36
In reply to Re: *Psycho-Babble Peace Keepers*..PLEASE read » jay, posted by Zo on July 6, 2002, at 21:46:04
Zo:I do hear what you are saying, and I realize something like this is a big task. All's I am calling for is some objectivity. Say before someone is 'banned', somebody who is "good" in mediation could be a, well, mediator. I am an MSW level social worker, and I hate even saying that on here, because my belief is it doesn't matter..period. But, I'd like to think I could help in bringing people together in a democratic fashion. It really isn't a hard thing to do either.
One thing I might suggest, is to ask Dr. Bob instead of just a ban, there be some private communication with the person, and an attempt to look into the problems.
Second, though, this *is* Dr. Bob's 'virtual hangout'. If he has a code of civility, and doesn't like certain words used, that is just something we will have to live with. If somebody came into your home, and talked in a way you found offensive, doing whatever they please, I am sure you or anyone would be ticked, and do have a right to ask that person to leave.
There are *tons* of ways for people to get along and communicate. I've seen past sworn enemies, especially in families, reconcile in a simple group family session. It doesn't always work out...but no harm in trying, especially if many things *do* work out.
Anyhow..I hope you catch my drift. I know very well we can develop much more peaceful relations on the boards. It's that control over our behaviour that I think can also help us in our 'real' lives.
Questions...thoughts?
Peace,
James
poster:jay
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