Posted by shar on July 7, 2002, at 3:39:34
In reply to Re: Sure wish you wouldn't leave., posted by Zo on July 5, 2002, at 6:43:44
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> I want to support those who feel comfortable with the ways things are presently run on the board---and I want to support those of us who do not.
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...........me, too! I think everybody should get to feel the way they feel.> Perhaps you have to be forty, fifty, older. .
.............thatsa me
> and to have come into your own, to understand
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......it is extremely clear to me that you do not wnat a 'dad' nor the politics of 'control.' I was posting in a more general sense about the group dynamics I see here. My guess is you knew that, though.> If it makes you feel secure to have an "authority figure" in charge, fine.
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........woo hoo! This is provocative to me!
> Please respect that women my age neither want nor appreciate one. it's offensive, it's stifling, and they tend to be dead wrong nearly *all* the time.
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...........I don't know how old you are. I am 50. It is not a matter of wanting or not wanting an authority figure here, it is a *fact* that we have one (namely, Dr. Bob).> Bob is just a person. My pdoc to who I owe my life is just a person. I am just a person. You are just a person. If things can't proceed on that basis. . .something's wrong.
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..........Bob is just a person who is in charge of this board, and has decision making power over how to handle posts he feels need his attention. We are all 'just people' with different roles here. The administrator role is different from the poster role (by role I don't mean as in play acting).
> Forgive me if I've been naive.. . .but I thought everybody knew this stuff. I honestly did.
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..........I don't know about naive, but 'this stuff' that you wrote about is not in accordance with my own beliefs, opinions, feelings, so I suppose you could say I didn't 'know' it. It is always iffy to suggest that there is one truth for all women.Shar
> Zo
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