Posted by IsoM on July 3, 2002, at 15:38:14
In reply to Re: blocked for week - SD, posted by Dr. Bob on July 3, 2002, at 14:07:37
Dr. Bob, Beardy's first post simply had "Please stop answering all posts with City of Peace (nm) » Lou Pilder" - nothing else, no mention of proseltyzing. Her next post did have the subject of proseltyzing. You didn't caution her first post.
And Bob, I think you know that many people never think to change the subject line, even whe it veers off the topic. They figure if they do, the original poster might not see it even if it's addressed to that poster. What you're doing is censoring SandraDee, not for what she's saying, but for not changing the subject line instead. And what "two wrongs" are you referring to?
Can't you see that Sandra hasn't been putting Lou down? She hasn't been unsupportive but has been trying her best to clarify just what Lou's trying to say. She really wanted to discuss things with Lou, not have an argument. She asked him a number of times in different ways but Lou didn't seem to quite understand. She was feeling frustrated with asking, she wasn't attacking Lou or putting him down. Can't you see that?
I normally try to stay out of these sort of discussions because nothing productive happens but I find it really incredible that you've come down on Sandra for this. I feel strongly enough to speak up & make a fuss over what should have been overlooked. Honestly, it's like a parent jumping in to "fix" any small dispute that their children may have that their kids would've straightened out by themselves without the parents getting all excited.
Bob, excuse me, AND I'm *not* being sarcastic, but have you ever admitted that you've made an mistake here? It's your web-site - you do have the right to say how it should be administered, but to never say that you've slipped is not a healthy view to take. Personally, I have issues with people who can't say they're wrong from time to time & not feel ashamed or afraid to admit it. It doesn't belittle them but increases their stature in my eyes.
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