Posted by Lou Pilder on May 26, 2002, at 12:44:59
In reply to Re: Response to Concerns... » Dr. Bob, posted by krazy kat on May 26, 2002, at 12:22:07
Friends,
There is nothing as agonizing as past horrors raising up their ugly head in your life now. I know what intrusive thoughts are . I know about the horrors of the past from your childhood.
But I also know that these horrors can be triggered by people that are unaware that they are pulling the trigger. Many times in my life I have dropped into the pit of dispair because I saw or heard the trigger. but I reasoned that I have a trigger, and others have triggers. but I also reasoned that we can't be blamed for the triggers of others, for they were given their trigger by someone else.
There are posters talking about beer on this board. I know a women that if she sees a beer sign that she experiances a panic attack. You see, her father was an alcholholic and drank beer all day and one day killed her mother in front of her while he was drinking beer. Now I know that this happens all the time. And I also know that we can not forsee what thing it is that we may talk about that may pull someone's trigger. My trigger gets pulled by others all the time. But I believe that we must see this as part of our affliction and not blame others for what they might say to trigger a past horror in your life. I am extreamly sorry that what I am saying causes distress to some people here. But i do not believe that segregating me or banishing me is the solution to anyones affliction.
Lou
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