Posted by Dinah1 on May 24, 2002, at 12:12:41
In reply to Final Summation of Concerns..., posted by krazy kat on May 24, 2002, at 11:51:35
Perhaps this all boils down to different people being triggered in different ways by this issue.
You are triggered in your issue. I am triggered in mine, which is having been teased and tormented in middle school because I was different.
I see these threads and am overwhelmed by the old issue and spend days crying about it.
Why do people assume that "unpopular" people or different people (and I am talking about myself here, no one else) have no feelings and cannot be hurt by rejection and unkindness? Is it because it is assumed that if we had feelings we would conform to the wishes of the majority? That if we had feelings we wouldn't annoy the majority?
Or do people realize they are hurting others but just don't care because they feel the people they are hurting deserve it or are unworthy of compassion and loving-kindness?
And why do the people who may feel a degree of compassion watch and do nothing? I think that hurt worst of all when I was in middle school. That there were people who were uncomfortable by what was done to me, but did nothing.
So you are triggered in your way and I am triggered in mine. And as much as I care about you, I can't not take it personally. Because I was Lou and I will be Lou again. And (I'm going to bring religion into this), what is done to ANY of my brothers (because Lou is certainly not the least of my brothers)is also done unto me. I do hope you won't take offense at my standing in solidarity with Lou on this issue, because I would stand in solidarity with you or with anyone else in the same situation.
And so I think I too will take a break from the board, unless Lou thinks that I can be of assistance to him in some way. And I hope those that feel differently on the subject will not hold it against me. It is an issue I feel so strongly about, because I made the decision long ago that it was far better to be disliked and unpopular than it was to be unkind.
With love and respect,
Dinah
poster:Dinah1
thread:5247
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