Posted by beardedlady on May 10, 2002, at 6:16:56
In reply to Just as well. I stepped in and now I wish I hadn't (nm) » Zo, posted by Ron Hill on May 10, 2002, at 1:46:55
Butting in would be appropos on the day of my colonoscopy.
KK, Phil, Wendy: Not being Phil or in his place, I initially thought Wendy's post was funny. I have done that exchange before, using that as an example (as in, "how would you feel if...?"), the only difference being the folks and I were having a live exchange, and we all knew each other. But I've done that in the classroom, too, and now that I think about it, maybe it made someone uncomfortable.
But KK didn't do anything wrong by laughing at someone's post (and the part that made her laugh was not the part about Phil, obviously, as the post was quite funny when it got past the little introduction). And Wendy didn't mean to hurt Phil; I thought her intentions were pretty obvious, and I assumed you all were each other's regular thread followers (I do remember about the marriage proposal and the llama).
But how a person takes something that's supposed to be funny is not under our control. Still, when we respond to say our feelings were hurt, we can't say, "You hurt my feelings, you childish, inhuman, loser creep." (Not that it's verbatim what Phil said, but it isn't right to return the hurt, especially when the person you think hurt you wasn't even the one who posted the point that hurt you!)
Phil has a right to his feelings. I guess that I wish, for the sake of the three of you and maybe the cheerfulness of the board, he would've directed his comment to Wendy, telling her that the use of him as an example hurt his feelings. It is obvious from his last bunch of posts (regarding spending too much time on the board) that he has been feeling out of sorts. And from his comments (I think I remember this) about being an overly sensitive person, maybe being the object of even light-hearted fun poking felt like ridicule.
But it's over now, and all's been said. Another good reason to read and reread. (That's why it takes me twenty minutes to try and say what I mean so that I'm not misunderstood. I keep reading and changing before hitting the confirm button. And MOST OF THE TIME, I change my mind about posting at all.
I started to write this post midday yesterday, but I changed my mind and decided to butt out. Then I saw Ron's post and thought it was something totally different from what I would have said; still, I didn't post.
But now that the colyte has worked, and all the s**t is out of me, I am ready to bear my colon to the world.
In the words of the terrific cook but, alas, possible pedophile, Jeff Smith, a.k.a. The Frugal Gourmet, "I bid you peace."
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