Re: power and intention

Posted by Dr. Bob on April 24, 2002, at 20:52:08

In reply to sarcasm and intention » Dr. Bob, posted by beardedlady on April 24, 2002, at 8:45:37

> Dr. Bob is stuck with the role of Parent, the Dysfunctional Parent...
Could I be Functional Parent instead? Please? :-)
> And, in order to be here and stay, we take on the role of Child. Bad child, Good child, Wrong child, Angry chlld, Passive child, Grown Up child, Cooperative child - but forever, if you look at how it really works, without power.
Grown Up Child and Cooperative Child sound good! Maybe think of it as division of power? I have the power to structure the site. You have the power to give support.
> it would be wonderful, really much more supportive of Mental Health, if the board could be restructured. . .. to be less Me Big-You Little. . .and a lot more We.
>
> Zo
The idea here has always been that together, We can use our powers to do some good. But there doesn't have to be any Me at all:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020308/msgs/3483.html
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> > > > > But what if tens of people, out of fear of being blocked, restrain themselves, and as a result, all but three or four of the people on the board feel unsupported?
> > > >
> > > > Then only 3 or 4 people would stay?
> Unless it's something you desire--that only three or four people would stay on the PSB board--your remark, though certainly serious, is still sarcastic. Its seriousness doesn't negate its sarcastic-ness.
Of course it's not something I desire. But I do think that if a lot of people were really inhibited, not many people would stay.
But a lot of people do stay. Therefore...
> I'm not talking about an all-out hurt fest. I'm talking about simple things, like giving someone who asks for it advice that may not be what he or she wants to hear. I'm talking about saying something honest and having it be mistaken for sarcasm. I'm talking about saying something funny and having you think it was an attack on someone else.
It's not always simple. Giving someone advice they don't want to hear may be unsupportive or even a from of pressure. Humor (and irony) may be misinterpreted, maybe especially online, and of course people don't always agree on what's funny.
> I believe intention should have some weight in determining whether you issue blocks or PBCs.
>
> beardy : )>
*Some* weight, OK, deal. :-)
Bob

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On Being Blocked, and Walking On Eggs Zo 4/22/02
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Dr. Bob. Could you move this post? DinahM 4/23/02
Re: On Being Blocked (and sorry Mark :-) » DinahM judy1 4/23/02
But how is it taught? How do people learn? Zo 4/23/02
Re: Can't easily move post Dr. Bob 4/23/02
i like zo's list idea... (nm) Krazy Kat 4/23/02
Re: blocked for 4 weeks » Dr. Bob Krazy Kat 4/23/02
Re: Civil Court » beardedlady Ron Hill 4/23/02
Re: On Being Blocked, and Walking On Eggs-Dinah Cecilia 4/23/02
Re: Zo takes another shot at it » Zo Zo 4/24/02
Bologna, et.al. » Ron Hill beardedlady 4/24/02
sarcasm and intention » Dr. Bob beardedlady 4/24/02
Re: Bologna, et.al. » beardedlady Ron Hill 4/24/02
Re: power and intention Dr. Bob 4/24/02
HEY, EVERYBODY - BOB SAID, DEAL! PAR-TEE! (nm) Zo 4/24/02
I mean, er, um, Why, thank you, Dr. Hsuing. (nm) Zo 4/24/02
wonerful, wonerful! (nm) » Dr. Bob beardedlady 4/25/02
and that stint of manic energy Did go away... (nm) » Dr. Bob Krazy Kat 4/25/02
Re: power and intention fi 4/29/02
Re: power and intention » Dr. Bob Alexus 9/4/06

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