Posted by deerock on December 11, 2013, at 21:14:11
In reply to Re: nardil experience/Repressed anger, posted by stargazer2 on December 11, 2013, at 14:14:15
hi star. i live in boston.
from what i understand, all repressed anger means is that you are angry about something and not entirely in touch with the real reason and the real feeling associated with it.for example - your parents may never have nurtured you in the appropriate way. as a child you became very angry over this but were unable to express it for fear of losing your care givers and being alone and helpless. so you turned your back on your feelings in order to be compliant. you found a way to pretend the anger was not there since you were not safe to express it.
as an adult, someone who did this as a child may learn to function in the world as a compliant, kind person when in reality they are very angry about their past and its impact on them but they are still unaware of the feelings or the feelings since they are not expressed come out in other ways ie: depression, dysthmia, drug abuse, etc.so therapy that gets at repressed anger would deal with why you got angry in the first place, identify how your parents let you down, where they fell short, how it made you feel. those feelings are not always easy to access and can require a skilled therapist who will do more than just talk about what a hard day you had.
let me know if that makes sense. ive found many analytic or psychodynamic clinicians can work in this way but you have to find one you trust and if you dont trust them you need to tell them and they need to handle that in a way that helps you build trust as opposed to blaming or shaming you.
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