Posted by sigismund on April 2, 2013, at 19:24:58
In reply to Anyone else have ruminations???, posted by Roslynn on March 31, 2013, at 13:01:57
> I'm constantly blaming and attacking myself in my head.
Have you noticed how some older people are more gentle and thoughtful?
This might be because, other tactics having failed, they have learned how to be kinder to themselves and others. Sometimes anyway. When I was younger my mind was floating in a soup of desires relating to wanting to be well thought of. It has taken much too long to learn to be kind to myself but once you CAN do it it is surprisingly easy.
I enjoy reading history....it gives me a sense of proportion about my 'problems'. As one approaches death it becomes more obvious that nothing matters, and that certainly includes self-accusations. In the extreme case, what does it matter if all the self-accusations are right? What would that prove? That you are not perfect?
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