Posted by sigismund on October 15, 2010, at 19:50:50
In reply to Re: depression. questions on meds, symptoms, psycholog, posted by morgan miller on October 15, 2010, at 19:20:19
>It can be very detrimental to the development of a child's psyche to take on this kind of worry and care for their parent. It should be avoided if possible.
Lots of things should be avoided if possible.
I don't agree. Worry is a part of life. Hardship is a part of life. The important thing is to avoid confusion.
I saw this program about a man. He was a shearer and was to be married at the age of 21 to a nurse. Before the marriage she had a stroke which knocked out her brain stem and she could not move or even speak, though she could breathe unaided. The shearer married her and the whole family cared for her. He even had a further child with her. He would take her out in the car when he mustered the sheep and lift her back to bed when they came back. And of course you ask yourself why he would do this, and the answer has to be that his sense of decency required it. Anyway the guts of the story was that he wanted to earn some damn money by opening a brothel in a country town, which he did.The most moving part of the story was the interview with the 10yo boy who was, of course asked how he felt about his mother's condition, and at this point he dissolved into tears and said 'I just wish she was better' but I have to say he was the very model of sanity, and it is because he understood his situation accurately and he was surrounded by a relentlessly decent environment.
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