Posted by morgan miller on October 10, 2010, at 23:38:39
In reply to Re: Doc, I found something that works, now what? » linkadge, posted by Maxime on October 10, 2010, at 18:58:33
> What would swearing accomplish?
I think Linkage did not swear partially because he knows it is would not accomplish anything.
Off topic, I think you might be better off throwing those medications out. Keeping the option around is just allowing you to hold on to the comfort of an idea that is completely unproductive to the progress you need to make. Maxime, have you been able to see a therapist? I just get the sense that you are in a place where feeling bad about yourself and suffering have become all too comfortable. I'm not saying you like feeling bad, I'm just saying that you may have become a little too accustomed to it. Do you ever remember being happy and having a healthy positive self-esteem? The thought of actually feeling good, being happy, and loving yourself may be something that scares you. If you are happy and you love yourself for who you are, then you are vulnerable to getting hurt again and losing everything. I know it's a scary thought. I think many of us are somewhat afraid of feeling good because we know we could lose it at any moment, which could be more devastating than never having it at all. Falling in love and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in a romantic relationship is a good example of this problem. Many people are afraid to allow themselves to be vulnerable in a relationship because they have been hurt in the past and fear getting hurt again. If they find a way to not allow themselves to be vulnerable, they can prevent that feeling of loss and hurt. They may do this by choosing to be with people that they are not as drawn to romantically or people that are always busy and will not be able to spend too much time with them. The problem is , if you never allow yourself to be vulnerable, get to know yourself and what is best for you, and allow yourself to be with someone that is good for you, you will never really be able to be truly happy in a relationship. Healthy relationships and love are essential to a happy fulfilling life. Maybe I'm wrong about what I am guessing might be going on with you. I'm sorry if I've angered you in anyway with what I said.
Morgan
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