Posted by linkadge on September 14, 2010, at 18:36:39
In reply to Re: suicidality exhaustion... » Dinah, posted by Maxime on September 14, 2010, at 17:50:48
I have read that statistic too. I tend to think it is because of sex differences in brain wiring.
Ever notice when women have a problem, men want to simply "fix" the problem, wheras women really want consolation? They want to talk about the problem, or to know that their husband loves them yadi yada (a stereotype I appologise).
When I think about my problems (I am male), I don't really care about the conscolation of family and friends. I don't want it. I think of my problems in terms of something that needs to be fixed. If I come to the conclusion that I cannot "fix" the problem, or that it cannot be fixed by medications, then I really don't really want to talk about it much at all.
Thats why CBT probably doesn't work for me. I don't want to talk about my problems unless you have something that will "fix" the situation. Suicide (but certainly not failed suicide) becomes the solution to the problem.
There are two possiblities as to why women fail more. Either a) they are not as good at men at devising lethal methods b) they don't really want to die. I am leaning towards the latter, simply because of the way women may derive more positive mood benefit from the attention of family and friends, whereas men don't want consolation, they want a solution.
I wouldn't be caught dead (an oxymoron I appologise :)), failing suicide. If I did, I would feel so much more utterly worthless.
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