Posted by violette on September 5, 2010, at 23:31:34
In reply to Re: disability » olivia12, posted by proudfoot on August 29, 2010, at 14:32:53
Proudfoot,
No, i didn't take your post to me as personal criticism, as i wasn't criticizing anyone, so that's ok...
I went back and read your story, it was really sad. Sometimes people might think oh you're lucky you went to school and are educated, etc., but then I think sometimes it can be worse to achieve and have it sort of taken from you by force by the illness as opposed to having nothing to start with. I've been in both situations, but differently...not speaking of losing a loved one here, but in terms of general disability.
Smart of you to take a disability policy; i haven't thought about doing that and now will consider it. My family member had to give up about 50% of benefits (out of the whopping $700/month awarded) to pay the attorney, and as you mentioned about medical records-the mental hospital wrote false information in the records to protect themselves (i was there, keen and of sound mind, and witnessed everything). She was in a wheelchair, legs crushed, multiple surgeries, unable to use the bathroom herself let alone work; later heavily sedated by Halidol-yet still denied disability as most everyone is automatically denied. And i had to do much of the fighting despite my own illness, as she was not as sound minded.
When you don't have much, and those around you don't have much, you don't expect much-sometimes financial loss isn't as traumatic if you are used to frequent financial losses...that's only the financial aspect though. The dignity, i think, is what hurts the most-in many cases. Like with Olivia's situation-it seems dignity might have been a factor as her husband worked hard-but received no 'credit' for it....
But if all you have is your health then lose all dignity, such as Leo's situation...Gosh Leo the way you described your situation-painted a vividly emotional, but dark and sad picture in my mind...I wish we could help in some way.
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