Posted by ace on December 24, 2009, at 4:22:05
In reply to Re: Decreased function and activity, posted by rjlockhart04-08 on December 22, 2009, at 20:58:51
> she disagree's....because of past I mistook these [dexedrine, adderall] yet now I realize that this medication was the only thing that help's something "stimulate" to normal and function normal.
You made a simple mistake...can she understand this?
who is this 'she'?
> I really feel guilty for putting a burden on someone, there is just something I feel awful about.What exactly is the burden?
Right now, alot of people when they judge depression they say "this person is selfish"...that is only if that is a choice,
Well, I think this does have a grain of truth in certain 'patients'. And many people with clinical depression do not recover (to the highest level possible) because they are recieving so many secondary gains from their illness.
But this in itself is part of the illness!
That being said I want to make it extremely clear that I feel dealing with clinical depression is not just a matter of 'pulling up your boot-straps'. A lot of this CBT inadvertently puts the blame on the sufferer.
What I am saying is that, I feel, we have to do our very best IN ADDITION to drug therapy to live as functional and as happy as possible. Look honestly at ourselves and ask if we are doing all we can to help alleviate the problem...i.e. are we exercising, eating correctly, sleeping correctly, etc etc
Obviously at times even these activities can be impeded by the depression, so it is just not so easy to ascribe blame to anyone....
At the end of the day, stay alive and keep trying....
Above all, be gentle with yourself.
And if you are in pain, express this.and plus you cannot control something like siezures or depression/ they both are real, so it's like making fun of someone who goes into convulsions.
I don't think it is right to make fun of anyone that has depression, or any illness! I think very few people actually do this. I think their frustration at seeing you not well gets the better of them at times.
And it's so hard for psychiatric problems, we have no tests!
> I have to make a choice if i'm going to "act" like i'm having a good time, but in truth..there is so much dispair inside and it's just not shown, and when it is people are like "omg...your depressed???" like it's a sin or something that they don't understand.Get out of this business of 'acting happy', I would think. If someone annoys you, or you are upset, say so in a tactful, non self-deprecating, way. You don't owe your happiness to anyone else!
> I just have this feeling....of heavyness then i'm burdened by this because it effect's others.
When you are unwell, it is OK to have people care for you.
You are not a burden!
If you saw someone you loved very depressed, I bet you wouldn't see them as a 'burden'.If your like most with psychiatric problems, I am pretty sure you would be extremely kind, caring, and patient with such a person.
Did any of this help, or am I off-base?Ace!
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