Posted by bulldog2 on September 27, 2009, at 16:04:26
In reply to Re: Please Help Me Complete My Combo » bulldog2, posted by Phillipa on September 26, 2009, at 20:48:06
> Bulldog the real world can be nasty as we've discussed l truly wish you well with the surgery and I'm sure you're also getting anxious. Isn't it this week? Love Phillipa
Thank you for your well wishes as all people who just have enough times to wish me good luck are truly appreciated. Surgery is on 9/29 and yes I am getting a bit anxious.
Really working on building tougher emotional armour as this is a jungle so to speak. If cbt will do it fine but if I need meds to help so be it.
I'm sure many here have been injured by people who prey on those who are preceived as being weak.Much of my life has has been spent in avoidance of situations I perceived as having some danger as others may also do.But this stratagy also leads to loss of many life opportunites.
So now is the time for a new life style for dealing with predators. I have discussed a new approach. I guess we all have people in our lives that are toxic. I mean people who do not like you or may even hate you. They always look for opportunities to do psychological damage. Actually I look on it as warfare.We (me and the p-doc) is to begin getting these people out of my life. That means to put down your guns and walk away. That means the war is over.
This can be very difficult but something I have to do. I will no longer attend any social functions where these people attend. I will no longer have these people to my house for family functions.For to many years I felt obligated to attend these family functions.I informed certain people about my decision.
I feel that it is my right to push these toxic people out of my life.For to many years I felt pressure to be civil to people who were rude and obnoxious to me. I finally exploded. I had it.I will no longer wage war with people who feel compelled to wage psychological against me. One of these people actually wrote in an email he was angry about things that occurred in the past and felt compelled to attack me. I wrote an email to him that the war was over and I will no longer be in his company.He was outraged. How could I not attend these family events but he would not modify his behavior to be civil. Wow...I must attend family events and he will continue to be rude and obnoxious.
I said "GOOD BYE" this is over. You are out of my life.
I realize this is a long story but I guess there is a theme. I have control of my life and can make decisions about people who are toxic to me.
When one feels trapped in a bad situation or situations one gets depressed. Once you see you have options and one is get as many toxic people out of your life you will feel better.
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