Posted by Nadezda on September 7, 2009, at 16:41:52
In reply to Re: Withdrawing ... rough times, posted by maxime on September 7, 2009, at 16:26:52
I used to be-- am and still somewhat-- that way, too. My T used to point it out all the time.
This may sound dumb, but I really think being positive about yourself is something you can practice and learn. If you try thinking about a situation and use this thought experiment. Try thinking, "omg, this is hopeless." Then try thinking, "I can do this. I know I can."-- or well, something that you might say to yourself to mean one or the other.
And you'll find, I think-- I certainly did-- that saying one made me feel much worse, and saying the other actually made me feel better. At the very least, the first makes you feel worse and the second doesn't..
I find that incredibly useful to know.
Of course, putting it into effect to the point where it changes you life is a lot of work but-- you can actually do it.
I don't know if the thought experiment will show anything for you, I know this is a rough time. But it does have the effect for a lot of people-- again, just as a thought experiment about how much control what you say to yourself about situations-- which you can change-- has over how you feel about yourself, and what you can do.
I'm sorry about how hard things are now and I hope things get better soon.
Nadezda
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