Posted by Racer on November 8, 2008, at 23:33:14
In reply to Game Time, rj v.s Racer....let the games begin!, posted by rjlockhart04-08 on November 8, 2008, at 22:56:30
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> Disclaimer: these past memories, caused trama, (not the danm movie, just living with my mother my whole life!) And i'm making a statement to you Racer, do you not rerember all my "trama" posts?Yes, and I remember that, when I tried to answer helpfully, you became upset with me. I'm not sure that you've ever understood this one thing: Yes, I do believe you were in a terrible situation, a situation which was overwhelmingly painful for you. I have never tried to say to you that you were not being honest about that, or that you were making anything at all up.
I believe you.
I have always believed you when you wrote about the bad situation you were in at home.
I don't think you've ever believed me when I said that, or maybe you've missed that part of my posts to you.
> Now, to address the mathematical skills, what your telling me Racer, is that "you can do it, without it", I can function....
No, that's not what I said -- not at all. What I said was this: you earned your math skills, the Dexedrine only helps you use them.
Let me try again -- I was trying to tell you that you, yourself, could take credit for having the math skills in the first place. I didn't like seeing something that looked as though you were giving the credit for them to a drug, rather than to yourself, for the work you'd done to earn them.
I meant it as a supportive, complimentary thing for you. Something to remind you that you have worth on your own, not only because of any medication.
> can ask you something? Could you do it with out your Concerta? think about it, and..
Well, since I no longer take Concerta...
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> Your Wellbutrin, let's say.....you where just pulled off it? and told "You can deal with life, you just got to work on it". Get the picture?You know, I'm starting to feel a bit insulted.
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> So, i'm not angry, i'm irriated that people dont understand some aspects of me, and accuse me of everything,Here's a question to ask yourself: are you so very sure that I don't understand you? Could it possibly be that I see things about you which you may not be aware of in yourself? I'm sure a lot of people here have insights into me which I've never had. Sometimes it's easier to see things in others than in ourselves.
And, maybe you're right. Maybe I have no clue whatsoever. By the same token, I am relatively certain from your responses to me that you have little understanding of me.
> what would you say....to a person who had endure this, and no one heard their cries?
How do you know I didn't endure equally painful experiences? How do you know that, if I cried out, anyone heard me?
Maybe my own childhood and young adulthood left me wounded. Maybe that's got something to do with why I think I might understand you better than you believe I do.
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> Now, the intentions of this post, is, do not look down on me. I've had so much pain, that when someone cries all they can,First, you have no objective evidence I look down on you. You can't have it, because it's not true.
Secondly, it sounds as though you believe that you've experienced more pain than I have? If so, what do you base that conclusion on? And are you implying that your pain is more important than mine? If so, do you think that's a tad insulting?
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> This was not intended to hurt, or offend anyone, but it was a strong statement "stop" putting me down.
>I've never put you down. That may be your interpretation of what I've said. It's never been in my words. In fact, that's why I included my final statement in my post to you. I'll repeat the gist of it here:
"Just for the record, I only respond to your posts because I am concerned about you. I have seen a lot of change in you over the years -- much of it for the better. I worry that you think I'm criticizing you, rather than expressing well-meant, even affectionate, concern for you."
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thread:861670
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