Posted by stargazer2 on August 24, 2008, at 19:16:55
In reply to Depression -passing it on **S. Trigger**, posted by B2chica on August 22, 2008, at 9:30:32
That's the reason I decided to not have any kids. I didn't want to be the cause of them having depression since I have not had a year of normal functioning since I was a teenager.
My mother has "something" but of course she has never tried to figure it out ("nothing wrong with me") and since she never had to work and prove her functionality, she became a "mom" (like so nonfunctional ones) and spent years torturing her kids (had 8 no less, 2 died)and never being found out. Mostly emotional abuse but this proved to me how truly sick she was despite maintaining a public persona of some "normalcy".
Sorry I digress, but having kids, especially if you have a chronic mental condition should be thought about long and hard. Same as if you have a chronic medical problem. I still don't understand why people have to have their own kid, especially if they suffered with some condition.
It was easy for me to decide not to have kids, I just thought of all the suffering I went through and said I wouldn't wish that on my worse enemy, let alone a child I was responsible for.
Having or not having kids needs to be thought about seriously. Too many have children for the wrong reasons and then find themselves with a whole pack of them and not enough resources or time to devote to raising them.
This is my opinion and I must say I feel I am in the minority, since no matter how serious a physical or mental condition one has, very few think of adopting a child. I don't completely understand this desire to reproduce one's genetic
structure, especially when I would consider many to be defective. I admit mine has defects, not as many as some and alot less than many but for me, the thought of passing my history on was unconscionable. Too much heartbreak to see someone I knowingly created go through what for me continues to be a daily struggle.SG
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