Posted by Justherself54 on June 25, 2008, at 11:25:00
In reply to Celexa and MJ - do they cancel out?, posted by worriedgf on June 25, 2008, at 0:58:58
He may have traded one addiction, alcohol for MJ. Bottom line, he knows it bothers and concerns you and still lights up when you are around and justifies it with the "don't knock it til you try it". I know two fellows, one with two little kids, the other lost his only daughter to an accident. They are both chronic smokers. The one who lost his child smokes all day and night. I truly believe this has stopped his grieving process in its tracks.
The one with little children has traded alcohol for pot, simply to keep his marriage together...his wife has accepted pot over alcohol...I did ask her how they were going to tell their kids to just say no to drugs when daddy's in the shed every night getting high and that her kids would find out...she said she didn't know...both these men are in their forties and have been chronic smokers since their teens...
On the other hand there are lots of "recreational smokers" who indulge on an occational basis with no problem. You are already expressing concern about the amount of pot he smokes, so I'm quessing you feel it's long past recreational...
So as to your question will he grow out of it...he may not...and that's where you will have to ask yourself whether you can accept being married to and raising a family with a MJ user...
For every concern you raise, he's already countering with putting the onus on you...you're too uptight, all music you love was produced by musicians who were high, the list will go on and on until you don't know if you're coming or going...
Please think of yourself and what your standards are for a healthy relationship...and don't settle for anything less...I think your fears and concerns are valid and I'm glad you are doing some soul-searching...
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