Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2008, at 10:52:13
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Slinky on June 8, 2008, at 7:03:50
Dave, you aren't responsible for Slinky taking her own life. You said she was going through some medication changes? Things really do get confusing at those times. No one person can be responsible for another taking their life. There are so many things, including biological factors, that go into that decision.
If anything happened to me, and my husband read this site (which he has promised never to do), there are some things here he would probably find hurtful or distressing. We post in the moment here, and in the moment one can think all sorts of things. But a relationship exists in more than the moment. I adore my husband. I think he's smart and funny and responsible and a wonderful father. Even those things about him that aren't my favorite things are usually the same things about him that I love the most. The flip side of his strengths. Sometimes I might be angry, or I might say something rash, but that doesn't affect how I feel about him as a whole.
I think you can trust what Slinky told you, and what she probably said here most of the time. Any thoughts she wrote that don't fit with that are probably just transient thoughts. Even if they have some truth in them, they aren't true, because they don't reflect the whole.
I can't take this pain away from you, but I hope that I can help you see that you should trust the entirety of your relationship with Slinky. Not a single post.
And I really urge you to get some help from a professional. Grief is a hard thing to move past, particularly in these circumstances. Please don't try to do it alone. Do you have a therapist or physician who can help you?
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