Posted by gardenergirl on March 1, 2008, at 22:43:56
In reply to Im so upset right now, posted by your#1fan on February 27, 2008, at 23:55:49
Hey fan,
I'm sorry you're going through such distress right now. I've had experiences when I felt abandoned before, and I have had very strong emotional reactions to them. It's rough, I know. Maybe you can try to look at this as a service provider (your doctor) who has decided not to continue to provide you with the service you hired him for. That happens sometimes. It's a pain. But we find another and hire them instead. It's like the person who does your dry cleaning or cleans the gutters or cleans your teeth or makes the pizza. All can be replaced. All are involved with you to provide a service, not for a personal relationship.And I understand you have a rocky relationship with your mother and that she may have a personality disorder. That may or may not be the case, but from what you've described, her actions often do contribute to your stress.
And of course you can't go back and change your past.
So all that is going on, but neither none nor all are the cause of your distress. Your distress comes from your reactions to all these challenges--your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in reaction to them. The good thing is, you can have more control over this in time. It's true the right medication can help. Seeing a new doctor who gives you a complete diagnostic workup might be helpful. Working with your counselor at school to develop new coping strategies for your symptoms can help. So can finding activities which increase your sense of self esteem and self-confidence.
You've mentioned "putting on" a mask or a different "personality" before to help you in situations where you don't feel comfortable. What if you tried on the "mask" of mature, independent young man? What would he do? What would he think, say, feel, and do? What advice would he give? How would he handle this?
Take care, fan. You're a special young man. I hope you feel stronger soon.
gg
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