Posted by Maria3667 on October 12, 2007, at 3:55:25
In reply to Re: The truth about sexual side effects- » Jimmyboy, posted by Bob on October 10, 2007, at 20:17:55
Hi JB,
With respect to the technical side of having sex, you are right.
But as another poster wrote before, destruction of libido, also often destructs feelings of 'being in love'. For many women (me), this quashes the romantic side of being with a partner.
So yes, I could still have sex to facilitate my partner (and that was the only pleasure it gave me), but otherwise it wasn't pleasurable for me. And hence not for him either.
I wonder, what toll do AD's really have on relationships? How many times does love end 'on the rocks' because many AD's inhibit the feeling of wanting to be sexual?Ofcourse it doesn't necessarily mean other ways of intimacy aren't possible, but it takes away the silver lining...
For me gratifying sexual interaction with my partner is paramount. This is what sets aside a partner relationship from other relationships with friends. I find libido hugely important. Just as important as many men would.
Maria
> > You are not a male, women may not be able to enjoy sex but you could still have sex. Some men are unable to have sex at all on some of these drugs, so I think the situation is a bit different when it comes to sexual side effects when it comes to men v. women.
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> Yes, I'll have to agree here. I've had these discussions with my mother and sister, both of whom have taken meds. They also have sexual side effects, but it doesn't prevent them from engaging in the act, but rather they don't enjoy or crave it. For a male, it basically makes it physically impossible as erections are no longer achievable or attainable.
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> I understand when someone is having a breakdown with unbelievable anxiety, depression and whatever else. Then the relief provided by a drug is incalculable. However, months or years down the road when sex can no longer be part of your life, it get's to be a drag. To say someone is not really depressed because they have a problem with drugs that make them obese, nonsexual, and physically unhealthy for the rest of their lives is a little extreme in my opinion. I've personally been to the edge of sanity and the depths of suicidality and dispair many times, but it still doesn't mean I like taking drugs that erase my sexuality. If you're a young man who would like to meet a girl, have a relationship and maybe even start a family someday, it's all but impossible. Of course, SSRIs take away even this drive in life eventually (at least for me). Maybe when I'm older and I've missed the boat on all this then it will be a less bitter pill to swallow, but I doubt it. Then I will resent the life I wasn't able to lead.
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