Posted by calamityjane on July 27, 2007, at 19:55:05
In reply to Re: was this doc causing my dads depression to wor » Cecilia, posted by Racer on July 27, 2007, at 12:54:43
> > I personally think it's pretty insulting for an adult to have their meds "doled out" to them and and there are plenty of people who are depressed who don't have anyone to dole them out to them, are the doctors supposed to treat only those who do?
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> What I meant was that, if someone was that high a suicide risk, at that time, they shouldn't have access to enough drugs to do this. If that means having someone at home lock up their meds, that's probably better than the alternative -- which would be to hospitalize them.
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> Most of the time, even depressed, I can be safe having access to my meds, because I'm not an immediate danger to myself. When I get to the point of being suicidal, though, I can't. At that point, I need to be protected from myself -- which means either locking up my meds and giving them to me on schedule, or it means locking me up.
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> The story told here looks as though there might have been some warning signs, especially since he had a history of suicide attempts.
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> I'm sorry if you were offended by what I suggested, but I'll stand by it.
I personally agree with everything you have written in this post, racer. I miss my dad so much, and this happened 21 years ago. There are so many "if onlys" that I have on my mind...
"if only they had just locked his meds away"
"if only they had put him in an institution for as long as need be"
"if only they had gone to a different doctor"
"if only he could have made it to 1987, when prozac came out"
"if only my mom had called police first, instead of that doctor"if only if only if only....
if only these things could have been different, maybe my dad would still be alive. Even if he was still at risk for suicide and living in an institution, I would be so grateful to have him in this world with me. I know that is very selfish of me to say that, but suicide itself is an incredibly selfish act.
I have always thought that if just looking at ME - his five year old little girl - was not enough to save his life, then nothing could have snapped him out of. That is hard for me to swallow, but at the same time it makes me aware of the direness in the situation.
Still, I am furious with this doc, and if I find out some negiligence was made, I plan on filing a report with the Board of MEdical Examiners. He is no longer practicing, but I feel he must know how much hell I have been through because of this.
I do know someone that lives near him. One of their mutal neighbors had a car accident, and when the doctor saw the lady in the yard he started asking if she wanted him to prescribe her some pain pills. She politely declined, but when I heard this happened I was shocked. I thought it spoke so much about his character as a doc.
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