Posted by Fivefires on March 10, 2007, at 9:32:22
In reply to Need some good advice, posted by someday on March 10, 2007, at 2:12:05
Hey Someday. I too have had troub' w/ Jan, Feb, and now into March. Thought was really goin' off the deep end, again!
I talked to my 'somewhat knowledgeable about DBT therapist' about SAD and also told her more than a couple bad events have occurred in my past during this time of year, these days seeming to follow Christmas and New Years, and believed my body clock was remembering and just doin' what it did the year b4. She agreed.
So, w/ a bit of SAD and body clock influence, I'm right there w/ ya.
Regular? Coffee w/ 1cr and 1sug means regular?
To me, regular means just like it is b4 u alter it! Someone could write a book about proper coffee language today and make a fortune!I complain (not in a mean way) about the coffee language everytime I go to S*ar*ucks. I say, if you want to know what I want and u want me to say it properly and quickly, why don't you print or post a menu?
When I say this, the peeps working there just kind of nod and smile as they begin to rush about trying to put together what I've said 'in the not so proper yuppie S*ar*ucks way'.
I don't care what they think about what I say as long as I get the coffee I want.
It's like checking your McDonalds bag b4 leaving the drive up. U need to check your S*ar*ucks too!
Think I'll call-or-email S*ar*ucks a suggestion re: printing a menu and calling it something like 'S*ar*ucks Language', and suggest maybe it would be a good idea to give their coffee drinks numbers. Instead of spieling off this yuppie coffee talk, you could say, "I'd like a #4 please."
And, think I'll hint at some compensation for my anxiety/trauma suffered due to inability to properly communicate my coffee needs ... maybe in the form of some 'free coupons'! Let's all do it!
(Spkg of coffee, I really like Chr*stopher B*an Jamaica Blue Mountain.)
I'm writing my own 'mantras' afa self-talk goes. These things we say to ourselves must be things we believe and curtailed to our own personalities.
Since I've been grieving over my father 3yrs now, holding on, and in some ways punishing myself, keeping myself from moving on, my mantra is going to be ...
I WON'T FORGET DAD IF ... blah blah blah. The blah blah blah could be 'I go to a restaurant he loved and enjoy myself'.
What think? We make our own individualized 'self-talk'! For peeps that are hard on themselves, this sort of 'backwards self talk' might work well.
We could say, 'My health will deteriorate if I don't eat healthy food'.
If it works the way I'm thinking, the mantra would become a part of our everyday thoughts, maybe even boring us, and, being peeps who tend to think we are bad and must do ourselves harm, we start eating healthy food just to spite ourselves! Am I making any sense here?
What's the tape you're listening to ? if u care 2 share. I'm glad your heart likes it.
I'm not well educated re: SAD and/or our body clocks. Maybe we can prepare? Maybe 'we can make up our own self-talk to fit this 'pulling down time' when it rolls around next year?
Can any1 shed more light?
I too have troub' w/ ADs seeming to trip-off anxiety and presently am better on just an anxiolytic. (I say the word anxiolytic because ' benzodiazepine' has really taken a beating lately!)
Some peeps worked long and hard to develop this med that helps the problem I'm having and has 'come to a peak lately', and I'd dam* glad they did!
This time will pass and better days will come.
whenwillsumdaybe2day?, 5f
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