Posted by stargazer on February 14, 2007, at 0:52:28
In reply to Re: Trauma -Mental Illness » Tom Twilight, posted by ace on February 12, 2007, at 20:49:57
My sister died of kidney disease when she was 16 and I was made to feel that I contributed to her death since I was "mean" to her. My mother was the one who really made me feel guilty for that. Years later she still says things like "but you were mean". So I say "but you were the parent, it was your responsibility to not blame others for things they could not control...". That really freaks her out.
As far as other siblings not having the same impact from these events, it is age determinant, I was at a more vulnerable age emotionally when this all happened...my siblings don't remember half the things I did when all this was going on. They were 3 years younger than I.
I can remember feeling so overwhelmed with fristration and anger from all the f*cked up family dynamics during that time..my father retreated into his work and my mother made our lives a living hell afterwards, blamed the rest of us for everything. Obviously she was in a depression of some sort, fueled with anger and still has that in her, a streak of rage that emerges when it is least expected.
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