Posted by elanor roosevelt on February 7, 2007, at 22:08:43
In reply to Re: Help With Diagnosis (long) » polarbear206, posted by blueberry1 on February 5, 2007, at 18:45:07
i tried to take a class in attachment theory and only was able to get through one session as i knew it would be too painful
Blueberry,
when a newborn is laying in a crib with nobody around and that baby is wet or hungry or lonely and cries and is picked up by a loving person with a soothing voice who will care for those needs, the infant is learning that needs can be met and life is good
however, if you are left to cry you are alone in the universe and develop expectations for disappointment -- you do not expect your needs to be met by the people in your life
this affects your loving and intimate relationships because you are pretty sure you don't deserve to be taken care ofYou do deserve to be loved and cared for.
Please find a way to believe that.
My best wishes for you
poster:elanor roosevelt
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