Posted by Racer on October 19, 2006, at 14:46:51
In reply to Re: have a question, posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 14:14:07
Five days isn't long enough to feel any of the anti-depressant effects of Effexor, although he is probably experiencing some of the anxiolytic effects.
Linkadge is a smart guy, and he's right: Effexor is not the answer. No drug is the answer. The medications are tools that help with creating an answer, though, and they have a place in the process.
In the case you're describing, though, counseling is going to be a big part of the answer -- probably the major part. Your husband needs individual counseling, as part of a process to teach him better coping skills than alcohol and violence. Without that, he's always going to be a danger to you, and likely your children, too. Family/marital counseling -- depending on the specifics of your family, whether the kids are of an age to participate -- will also be a very big part, because it will both help improve your communication, and also help him develop more empathy for you, as his victim.
Am I using words that seem harsh to you? Only because there is a pattern to domestic violence, which includes a lot of denial on the part of the victim. (Individual counseling for you, as well, would also be a good thing...) I would hate to see you get hurt even worse because you didn't hear those words applied to your own situation.
Peace, and good luck.
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