Posted by laima on August 14, 2006, at 18:04:54
In reply to Re: Optimistic part » laima, posted by linkadge on August 14, 2006, at 17:36:58
Yes, when she first got the tumour, people were sympathetic. Then she had surgery to have it removed, but it grew back. This happened several times now. Besides chemo, she was put on some nasty hormones, which made her look haggard. And next thing you know, numerous people who she thought were her friends were lecturing her about how she looks bad and should be taking better care of herself, no wonder the tumour was coming back, and so on. Mercy if she ever wanted to have a single beer or something (it was ok per her doctor)...people would react like she was chain-smoking crack.
I think you have a good observation- if people blame others for their illnesses, they get to somehow distance themselves or reassure themselves that it could never happen to them. Maybe they even get to excuse themselves from staying compassionate through a long-term difficult situation.
> >You'd be surprised- it's happened to a friend >of mine who is battleing brain tumours. It's >happened to her a lot- people directly and >indirectly accusing her of unhealthy living and >such.
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> Wow, thats intense. I didn't think such people existed.
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> Linkadge
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