Posted by Larry Hoover on May 17, 2006, at 7:27:37
In reply to Re: What to do about Dad » Jost, posted by stickywicket on May 17, 2006, at 7:03:14
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> > If someone I loved were having a hard time, I might at any point step in somewhat paternalistically (or maternalistcally) to take up the space left by their having to cope with the pressures or pain of the situation.
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> I wonder when is that *point*? How bad does he have to be before I step in?
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> He has an appointment with another gastroenterologist next week and I'm pretty certain once he's talking with the doc, he won't bring up the depression. Is it inappropriate for me to call the doc ahead of time and fill him in?I should think it would be an act of kindness to offer up your greater understanding. I would be very careful to suggest that the doctor should show no evidence that he had been counselled, though. Your dad is of the era when mental illness was heavily stigmatized. He may feel very ashamed already.
Good luck. Your dad is blessed to have your support.
Lar
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