Posted by curtm on April 25, 2006, at 13:04:55
In reply to Frustration, posted by wonderboy on April 24, 2006, at 22:18:04
** First of all, welcome to Dr. Bob. You have found a very good place. It is good that you have committed yourself to getting help.
> I always feel so frustrated. I can’t stand my job...social life...dealing with fake *ss people...
>...I told my friend...I would not have to worry about getting what I want.** I am married, but I often wish I wasn't because then I wouldn't have to compromise anything. That is really defined as selfishness, which she repeatedly pointed out.
> I am able to control my emotions so well, I don’t know if this is having a negative effect on me.
** I would guess that it is having a negative effect on you (it doesn't seem to be having a positive effect on you.)
** Are you controlling your emotions or are they controlling you? I used to feel that I was right and the entire world and everything in it was screwed up. I just lived my life inside my own head because that was the only way I could deal with it. I didn't want help with anything and I didn't really want to intract with other people. Perhaps you have fallen into that clutch. How long have you been that way?
** Then depression slammed me- HARD. I slept like 14-16 hours a day and I wanted to check out. I had to get help or it all would surely end badly.> ...my life is stuck in one big loop...My mind always racing...I just don’t care about anything.
** Try some things to stop feeding your brian with anxious thoughts giving it something else to absorb. Here are some things that helped me get started on my turn-around (and they're all FREE):
- Learn about yourself. I started reading a psychology textbook that I still had, particularly the mental disorders sections to maybe learn more about what was happening (I didn't pay attention to it in class the first time.)
- Look outward. Instead of looking at the cars, buildings, signs, etc, I would look at the trees, horizon, water, etc. I felt a calming sensation from that. There is a greater world than the one your mind lives in.
- Lighten up. Sometimes I did people-watching just to understand exactly how each person is unique. Instead of seeing people doing stupid things, I tried to find a little humor in it.
- Social skills. I started saying "Hi" or "Hello" to most people I encountered, even strangers. I looked them in the eye just as I said it. I started saying "Excuse me" in a nice way (ie. at Walmart!) I started holding doors and saying "Thank you" when someone returned the favor.> I am so sick and tired of trying to stay concentrated at work, I can never be relaxed, There is always something to keep me busy and feel so rushed at work.
** I felt that way, too, and still do sometimes. There are a lot of things a person would rather be doing than working, and those thoughts can cause a little harmless daydreaming. There are two rules to remember:
-Don't take work home with you. Leave it at the door.
-Don't bring your personal life to work with you either.> I am currently taking the new wonder drug Emsam 6mg / 24.
** Interesting. I am bipolar and I have been having emotions that don't seem to be under control yet. I might have to ask my pdoc about the Emsam. I take Lamictal 400mg and Wellbutrin 150mg now, but something is a miss.
** I have had problems connecting with therapists/counselors, too, but it may be more difficult finding one that suits you. Try not to et discouraged.> She (your therapist) makes it sound so easy but its not the case... There are some things you can’t change in life.
** Try to change the things you can and accept the things you can't. Change the way you let them affect you- Try to turn it into something positive. I'm sure you've heard that one before.
> I am 22 years old and wondering if life is going to ever change for me.
Mental health issues aren't "age-selective". You younger people just have more time to heal. Not necessarily uncommon thoughts for someone who believes they can improve their life, career, etc. It doesn't happen overnight. Take little steps- you'll get there.
** As fas as how you feel about the way you look, try to "not care" how you look, but don't let it go too far! I actally took most of my mirrors down for a while because it was hurting my self esteem, then I went about my day not wondering how I looked. Try looking through windows, not into them.
** As far as a relationship goes, worry about getting your head right first. As I said before, it doesn't happen overnight.
I apologize for being so long winded, but I couldn't help addressing the similarities we have and trying to help.
curtm
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