Posted by jcalder on February 18, 2005, at 18:18:37
In reply to Re: lexapro and marijuana use » jcalder, posted by Impermanence on February 18, 2005, at 17:42:35
> I've been taking Lexapro for about eight months, it was hell for the first two months, these days it's like I'm not on anything, I don't notice it.
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> I also smoke weed and hash, a lot of weed and hash every day. Thats not the reason your husbands leaving you.
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> People here always act like over cautious psychologists trying to label every state of mind for a chemical solution. I don't think he's manic or bipolar. I think he was depressed for years while married to you and now Lexapro has lifted the cloud and he sees whats actually wrong in his life; he's unhappy with you.
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> You said "we are now about to lose everything we have worked so hard for", maybe you are about to loose everything YOU worked so hard for and he was just going along. Now Lexapro has given him the clear headedness and confidence to get on with his life somewhere he's happy. Maybe you need to move on too.
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> Just my two cents, anyways I hope things work out for you whatever happens, it must be a very difficult time. It's easy to blame it on meds and easer for people here to blame it on manic depression, something they have no idea if your husband really suffers from. Sometimes it's better to hear what you don't want to hear.
I do appreciate your honesty, and yes, it is easy to blame meds, etc. i would like to give you a little more history and would like your input, because i am really struggeling with this. i believe my husband has always been a depressed person, he knows it, his family knows it, its just him. i have struggled with him for the past ten years to find something to help him. he has an anger problem, smashes doors, punches holes in walls, etc. we did have a one year separation about 5 years ago because his anger had simply gotten to be too much for me and we had a daughter. after we got back together, he was great for the past 4 1/2 years, we had another baby, his anger was much more under control. as far as what we have worked so hard for, this has all been his dream, and i am the one who has been along for the ride, working with him to have everything he wanted. then, about the past 7 months or so, his anger has started raging again and depression coming back. the only things i could contribute it to were either the stress of the move, we recently moved from ca to az, which is something that he wanted to do, i simply agreed, we bought a house, which he also wanted, and he was starting his own business, money was really tight, and tension was high, or the other thing that was different was that he started smoking pot again, he had quit for years. so, i figured it was either the stress or the pot and suggested that he go talk with someone, which is what he did and started the lexapro. now he says that i f*cked him up and acts as if he never had any problems and wouldn't have if it weren't for me. can you please shed some light on this, because i have only tried to love and help him all these years, and after everything i have been through with him in trying to please and love him and help him, i just don't understand how he could feel so negatively about me and think i cause his unhappiness. i dont mind honesty at all, maybe i need to here it...it just doesn't seem like this man is my husband., and after our separation, if i was all his problems, didn't he figure it out then, and why did he come back...i know you don't know us and of course don't have all the answers, i am just so cinfused and hurt...any input???
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