Posted by bridgey1128 on October 21, 2004, at 17:19:28
In reply to Re: Topomax » rainy, posted by iris2 on October 21, 2004, at 16:11:39
I looked up Straterra..good news...its really an antidepressant! That would probably work better than the Ritalin. I had heard this before but hadn't looked it up until now. No wonder it didn't work on my son. He's not depressed, he's ADHD. :P I have no idea why it works. I have a theory and I share it with my son's Dr. Most kids who are diagnosed as ADHD and are on medication are neither ADHD nor need to BE on medication. If you pay attention to their parents you can clearly see WHY. Children with no boundaries act as if they have no impulses. Why? Because they have never been taught to control them. Parenting now is a horrible joke. Parents are too worried about being their child's friend instead of being their child's parent. I know so many kids that are SOOOO hyper and I have actually caught myself thinking, that kid needs some Ritalin. Then my son's NEW Dr sent me his 10 page research on ADHD. It was quite a wake up call. It made me rethink it and think about the parents of the children I knew whom I had thought about needing Ritalin. It was the PARENT'S fault the child had no inpulse control and couldn't sit still. THey had never been MADE to behave and they had never been MADE to have manners or have boundaries. No WONDER there is such a huge increase in the # of ADHD cases. It's the lack of parenting skills America has now. No one wants to actually discipline their children because they don't want to hurt their "self esteem". What a joke! Studies have shown again and again that these are the kids who grow up to be in jail and care about no one but themselves! They have no manners, have unstable relationships and don't do as well in school. And the worse part is, I know parents who home school their kids simply because they are afraid that the school will tell them their kids need to be on drugs. I am thinking...um..maybe if you had disciplined them a little more when they were younger and made them behave you wouldn't have nearly the problems you have now. Then you could actually SCREEN the ones who actually NEED to be on medication aside from the one's who just have behavior problems from lack of discipline. Our son is one of the actual like 4% who need to be on medication. We discipline, he does not have behavior problems. In fact, when we started telling people he was ADHD they were shocked because he was so well behaved. He just couldn't concentrate and gets EXTREMELY frustrated. That and we have to tell him things 15 times looking him dead in the face while his eyes wander all over the place. We literally would have to hold his head still and look him in the face and have to keep saying.."LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!" because he would be SOOO distracted. He also has obessessive compulsive tendencies, which come with the territory. Other than the compulsiveness, distractability, and impulsiveness he is very well behaved and well mannered. Why? Well.. BECAUSE WE MAKE OUR CHILDREN BEHAVE! It's just that simple. They have no choice but to understand that we are the parents and they are the children. DO they doubt we love them? NO! In fact, My son will be 7 tomorrow and still tells me in FRONT of complete strangers in the middle of Walmart that he loves me. Not a single cuss word has ever come from his mouth. Nor my daughter's who is 3. Do we spank? You bet! Do we have to frequently? Not anymore. I'm not saying all this to brag on my parenting skills because GOD KNOWS I have my share of problems. I have mentioned them! I yell. I have a temper.(redhead thing)I don't spank in anger though..I make sure of that. Was there a purpose to my rant? I dunno..maybe I just wanted to get it off my chest. I think too many parents rely on drugs and not parenting skills or vice versa. There are kids who NEED medication and their parents are too proud to admit their child needs to be on medication! Thanks for divulging me. :)
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