Posted by iris2 on September 20, 2004, at 4:01:21
In reply to Re: Thanks all - I'm done., posted by jerrympls on September 20, 2004, at 0:59:06
> Uh-OH-
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> All- I'm getting that sinking feeling...I'm becoming more depressed again....lonely...hopeless...angry. I'm seeing my therapist twice a week now...and we've uncovered a lot of stuff. But now I'm thinking "So what? Now I know I've wanted more validation from my mother - how does that help?" I mean, if you have pain in your finger and find out that it's a splinter - that doesn't make the pain go away - you know?
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> My only support is you guys and my therapist....if you're still out there, I'd appreciate some.....
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> Thanks all
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> Jerry :-(
Jerry,Good analogy about the splinter. If you find out the pain is from a splinter in you finger than you have done yourself a great service as now , after you figure out what tool to use, you can "remove the splinter" causing the "pain" to subside.
Your example:
As for needing more validation from your Mother once you figure out how, again what tool to use, you can give to yourself the validation you needed so much from her if you still need it. Or perhaps in recognising the need you will learn to no longer have it as you now know it will not be fulfilled.Sounds like your work with your therapist is going well:)
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