Posted by headachequeen on June 6, 2004, at 16:34:16
In reply to Re: thanks » headachequeen, posted by stacylouisabeus on June 4, 2004, at 6:35:38
> omg I cannot believe you could stay married to a man that would verbally abuse you like that. That does more damage than than anything physical ever could. I would rather be beat physically than be ever spoken ill to. Neither is appropriate, but I feel I can protect myself better physically.
LOL he was not abusing me verbally at all...
he was making light of a situation that bothered him deeply...
rather than say that when he met me I was drastically underweight and had a frightfully low self esteem despite the fact or facts that I am and was then an extremely intelligent and talented young woman, not to overlook the attractive part, with a great deal to contribute, and a family of wealth and position that seemed to overlook the obvious and refuse to do anything to help.. he would joke about his reasons for becoming involved with me...
we are of Celtic background; those things that mean the most to us, those things that touch us most deeply we do not talk about openly other than with a joke... we do not wear our hearts on our sleeves so to speak...
I understant when says this...
what I do not understand is why he fed me so well that I gained all that weight!!!!
He is an incredible cook... sigh
and I have suffered the results of his talents in the kitchen...
cornsih game hens with shrimp and wild rice stuffing are not too bad but the majority of the dishes he comes up with are massively rich and fattening and they did not help when I began to put on weight...
now he does things with salmon and chicken that are wonderful...salmon with almonds and apricots that or walnuts and pears... and chicken breasts with pears.... it makes being thin something to yearn for <G>
he has been my greatest fan and my firmest critic over the years... never allowing me to put forth mediocre work but always standing there in support of my projects... but abusive? no not that...
I do thank you for caring though...
one of our shared projects has been to work with abused children and with abused parents; a fastening work and with abused women...
unreal...
kat
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