Posted by shadows721 on April 2, 2004, at 18:58:07
In reply to Re: The shadows from the past (complex PTSD), posted by Ruru on April 2, 2004, at 0:30:57
All of your child's symptoms are normal for a very abnormal experience. I don't know how old this child is. That is very important to know in regard to treatment.
It sounds like she totally belives that she is at blame for this act of violence against her. It's affecting every aspect of her life- relationships, believe in herself, and even God. She may not ever feel safe either.
When something of this magnitude happens to a child, they feel they are totally to blame. They may subconsciously feel there is something wrong with them and that's why this happened to them. They may think that even God allowed this to happen (i.e., God rejected them too.) They have problems with others, because they feel "different" from others. In a way they are, they have experienced Hell on Earth experiences. The danger replays out in dreams as well.
The most important thing for her is to make her feel important. She has to have a believe in herself change. She has to have a change in knowledge about herself. Yes, this happened. Yes, it was from Hell itself. But, she survived. She is special and can turn this ugliness into something else. She can later, become a fighter for herself and others. She can use her voice and artistic abilities to express what wasn't allowed to be expressed. There is so much energy turned against the self. It has to be redirected into a powerful energy for herself.
Tell her this happened, because there are people who are very bad. They are drawn to the light of God in beautiful children. They want the child to feel bad and think bad thoughts about themselves. But, she must know - SHE STILL HAS THE LIGHT OF GOD IN HER. She can use this light to fight back against the darkness of the perpetrator.
This may sound odd, but it is my truth. Perpetrators are like hidden lions against children. They want to engulf their innocence. The child must learn the truth. They are still good and not allow the perpetrator steal their beauty that still resides deep within them.
I hope this makes sense. She must see she still has light and goodness in her. But, now, she has looked into the eyes of evil and survived. She has many gifts from surviving this hellish experience that she may not even know she has yet. She just doesn't know what powers she still has deep within herself. Right now, she only see what was done to her.
Shadows721
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