Posted by platinumbride on February 9, 2004, at 22:11:29
In reply to Re: cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships » roo, posted by pumped on February 9, 2004, at 18:18:33
I can relate to all that has been said on this subject all too well. I'm secretly kind of glad that I am not the only one! Meds or no meds, I know that I am mercurial and difficult.....or....loving, sweet, supportive and fun! It isn't easy for my husband...he never knows who he is going to come home to. But for him, waiting out the demon is worth it.
As for me, I would smack the ^*&(% out of anyone like me LOL!
What I try to do is give myself a "time out". Then I tell myself that if it is really a big deal and worth fighting over, it will still be that big a deal when I am feeling more rational. I never tell him that I think we are doomed and that this is all a mistake (though I feel that even as I write now) because generally something happens that makes me feel 180 degrees from that point. What is the use in upsetting him with how loathsome he is to me at times? I guess I learned long ago never to trust my emotions. Some people get to trust their "gut". Since I have guts that are often diametrically opposed, I don't have that luxury. I just try to appeal to reason. Doesn't always work, and it means that my partner needs to understand that I am in a "mood" and that it may not be his fault, but I figure for every time I hold my tongue it is like putting money in the bank, and then when I blow up I can look at the times I didn't blow up, and hate myself less for it!
Sigh.....good luck
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