Posted by jcsierra on January 21, 2004, at 14:27:26
My husband has had very bad depression and social anxiety disorder since early grade school, and as been seeing psychiatrists just as long. He and I have been together for 2 years and married for 3 months. I am beginning to wonder if I can even deal with his depression and anxiety anymore. It seems to be getting better but then suddenly it is bad again. He is on 4 different anti-depressants. Lately he has been in a bad mood most of the time, yelling and being rude about everything, or just seeming completely emotionless. If he isn't being grumpy he seem just not to care at all. When I try to talk to him about it he says that I"m not being supportive. I am just wondering when does it go from not being supportive to enough is enough. I am begining to think he uses his depression and anxiety as an excuse when he just doesn't want to do anything or just feels the need to yell at someone. He will be absolutely fine and then when he is crabby or just being rude for no reason and I ask him if anything is wrong he says everything is just fine. I tell him that he is effecting myself and the children with his moods and that I don't know how much more I can take of his attitude, and his response is always, "well if you don't want to be supportive of me then do what you have to do" I have been supportive of him for the last 2 years and I am just beginning to think that there are times when his depression isn't bothering him and he needs an excuse for his behavior or just and excuse to be mean, so he uses his mental problems for that purpose. When he knows he is in the wrong he just accuses me of not being supportive and making me feel like everything is my fault and I was wrong to ever get upset with him. I just don't know how much longer I can deal with this if things don't change. Am I being selfish and unsupportive? Should I just bite my tounge and put up with everything he does and every mood swing and bad attitude he throws at our family because he has an illness? Is there a point when you have tried so hard that it isn't a matter of support anymore? Where do I draw the line?
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thread:303797
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