Posted by ramsea on October 28, 2003, at 11:59:48
In reply to No Sensation No Pleasure No Orgasm, posted by Rodger on October 27, 2003, at 5:44:31
There are many directions you can go in with a problem like this. You might try reading the Anti-Depressant Survival Guide, by a Dr Hedaya--amazon.com has some copies, or try the library. He has an extensive section on sexual problems and ways to deal with this. Yes, his point of view is regarding antidepressants but his advice is sound anyway. For example, gingko biloba, a herb, helps some people with medicine induced sexual dysfunction, also other meds like amantdine, and dexedrine, and seleginine.
2) it's possibly just a low point in your biorhythms. Everyone goes through phases of being more vital/less vital/pretty near not vital. You may just be going through a temporary readjustment of your system--after all, you have been through a lot of serious medicines recently. We change our biochemistry with meds, though most changes are reversible. But you may need to give your body more time to adjust to these changes. Your nervous system may be saying, Hey, gimme a break, lemme rest a little, ok?If you give yourself permission, you may just be able to relax your way back into your normal sexual drive. The pressure to be over this must be tearing you up. But you really can't force these things, IMHO.
What you can do is distract yourself, move on to something else, and be soothing to yourself in other ways for now. Just tell yourself you will be back to former sex drive soon enough, but for now a massage of the foot will have to do! And a nice shower with good soap.
One trick: tell yourself that for two weeks you are not allowed to be sexual even if you really, really want to. Play a game about it. Treat this part of you like a little puppy that you like a lot but that is full of mischief. You can't force it to do be a happy puppy, you can only be friendly with it, gentle and kind, and not too intense, and eventually it will happily follow your lead. Too much fear makes a nervous puppy.
The more serious it becomes, the less easy to get over impotence. Everyone knows impotence. It is no shame. Not obsessing about it is a real task, but worthwhile. Watch videos that are not sexy, don't look at sexy magazines. Give yourself a sex diet--no deliberate seeking out sexiness, for one mont!!! Like most diets, it probably won't work. ANd you will eat your cake happily then.
One more thought, if this sort of tactic doesn't work for you, and if you find yourself compelled by worry over this and stuck in a distressing loop, do talk to your pdoc/doc/therapist/nutritionist/homeopath etc ASAP. All of this could be a sign of nutritional deficiency, depression or severe anxiety, or something else that needs professional support. You might also find a sex therapist useful. Hope you sort this out.
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