Posted by bookgurl99 on June 20, 2003, at 22:07:13
In reply to Re: I have a moral dilemma, HELP!, posted by NThompson on June 19, 2003, at 15:26:26
if you are 100% sure that her kids are not in danger -- that you would never harm them or abandon them due to your depression -- then you are not obligated to tell.
yet, you feel that this is something that you would want to be told -- presumably so you could find a different babysitter. maybe that line of thought -- which essentially says that you're not worthy as a babysitter -- says more about how you feel about yourself and your own worthiness now that you've survived a suicide attempt.
can you forgive _yourself_ for facing depression and suicidal ideation? can you attribute worth to yourself? i know it's hard to do when you're depressed, but maybe that is what needs to be worked on here more than the moral issue.
as for the moral question, maybe i see it differently because i don't have kids of my own. but i have a feeling that you can trust yourself not to 'go crazy' with the youths around.
if you feel like you're just not up to babysitting right now, then you can just use that -- not feeling well -- as your excuse to get out of it, and provide the mom with details later if you feel more comfortable.
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