Posted by jannbeau on October 28, 2002, at 15:47:05
In reply to Re: Adults with ADHD » KarenB, posted by Billy on October 27, 2002, at 16:49:34
> Bill, forgive me for speaking frankly. I am NO expert on any psychological problem, but here goes: I think you should NOT be living with this person at the present time! She needs to make big changes in her behavior, with or without medication--and YOU CANNOT RESCUE HER!!!!!
Your partner's illness sounds like much more than ADD, as other PB posters have already suggested, but even if it is NOT, Bill, you should LEAVE this house of madness! Get out--for now, at least. You need "space" to review this situation AND you need a second diagnostic opinion AND you could do with some counseling for yourself to determine why you feel compelled to live this way. You do NOT owe this person a whipping boy! Staying and engaging in violence simply increases the likelihood of violence. Violence begets violence, as the old saying goes. You did not mention children, but if there are children, take them with you!
Good Luck,
JannbeauHello, My name is Bill and I am in a very serious relationship with a beautiful woman(living together in our 30's. She has ADHD. I am sure there is another forum out there for me to speak on however, I have not found it. We are haveing major problems which I feel are ending this relationship. She has enxiety, depression and the ADHD. She is taking Effexor, I think 150 mg per day. There is so much besuty and talent in her if she could just believe in herself. Unfortunately it appears as though she is relying on me to make it all better. I cannot handle it!! I am a very good care taker and while living with her, I have almost gotten to be able to tolerate the mess etc.
> Of late there have been some major fights (VIOLENT) I dont know what to do. I am a very rational person but, I fear for her safety as well as myself If this continues down this road. She has tried to hurt herself and me. She is taking meds and seeking therpy once a week....i dont know where to turn. It almost seems Bi-polar (not that i know enough to say) but, her doctor and she tell me thats not the case. If anyone has advice or knows of an organization that can help PLEASE respond. Thank you.
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