Posted by Saragram on October 4, 2002, at 15:59:09
In reply to Re: Help, please! PMDD, cyclothymia, Prozac? (long), posted by polarbear206 on October 2, 2002, at 20:04:39
Thank you all so much. We MAY have been on the wrong track about the AD's and bipolar, but things are certainly not getting better:
When her husband tried to bring up the subject of a possible bad reaction to Sarafem, she blew up at him and said she was not taking it – she denied having filled the prescription and said she had only taken a few of the doctor's free samples almost 6 weeks ago. Her brother's fiancee says this doesn't gibe with what she told her two weeks ago, so who can tell?
When her husband visited the children Tuesday night while she was working late (at the home of a couple who are friends of theirs with whom she's staying while she's making arrangements to rent an apartment), he left an article on cyclothymia and AD’s, a book on depression, and a "Daily Bread" religious booklet for her. Before he even got home, she had called him raging that he had to quit leaving stuff like that and that she sees it as a form of “stalking” and that she’ll get an injunction against him if he doesn’t stop!
He has been much lower again the past two days. He keeps repeating that he still loves her so much he’d do anything to save his marriage, and is nowhere near ready to accept that she’s determined to end it. He’s also sad that he has to give up the most compatible AA group he’s found because it’s an early AM one and his boss on his new job is complaining if he’s late. When a friend asked him if he thought he was really an alcoholic and, if so, why, he replied that if your alcohol use has a bad effect on your life then you’re an alcoholic, and his life was ruined so he must be. He seems willing to let her define himself to him.
She says he is to take the children every weekend, and she is unwilling to do any of the transporting – this means he has to drive 60 miles from work to get them, 32 miles to my house to keep them for the weekend (no baby furniture in his house) and then take them back to her Sunday night. Both last Friday and today she called all around trying to get him or me or a friend or her brother to pick the kids up early – today she first said she had a bad muscle spasm in her neck but later in the day the reason was that she needed to go buy a money order to make the deposit on her apartment.
As for taking care of myself, I’m trying but it’s not easy! I made an appointment with a therapist and when I went she said that she used to see my daughter (2 years ago) and so it wouldn’t be appropriate for me to be her patient so I’ve got to find another one. She said she thought I should be on an antidepressant, so I called my gynecologist about a prescription and she suggested Effexor. I had done a little reading and was leaning toward Celexa, partly because it’s supposed to help you stop drinking and since my daughter is defining everyone in the family as an alcoholic I guess I’ve got to give up my lite beer, too. I’m going to hold off on doing anything for a few days. I’ll have my hands full with all three granddaughters this weekend – the two little ones plus my son’s 10-year-old so maybe that will keep my mind off things until Monday.
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