Posted by pedr on February 28, 2002, at 8:29:34
In reply to Having the rug pulled out from under you, posted by misty99 on February 27, 2002, at 9:00:57
Mist,
I don't have suggestions re: your dx like the others but I do have a suggestion w.r.t. coping with the dismay and depression caused by having yet another crash.The way I see it is like this. When the crash happens, beliefs such as:
- this is unbearable, I can't take another dive like this
- this is not fair, I don't deserve thismay come in to play. That's how I think a lot of the time when I dive downwards. A better way to look at things, which helps you to recover quicker and be less upset and disturbed by a dive is to go:
- this is pretty horrible. But, I've borne it in the past and I can bear it again until I find a solution to my problem - I will not disintegrate and die.
- I *wan't* to be treated fairly but there is no law of nature that says this has to be the case. It's rotten that I have these crashes but things *could* be worse.Ok, this might sound like total "convince yourself things are ok" shite but when you really think about the two sets of beliefs, the second set are more accurate, logical and certainly more helpful, in that they help you to deal with really adverse situations such as poop-out. It's taken me a lot [years] of practice to *begin* accepting the second set as opposed to the first set.
Feel free to ignore this suggestion, I just thought I'd [very] briefly point out some techniques that I find are beginning to help me after years of practicing them.
Best wishes,
pete.
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