Posted by jason60 on August 11, 2001, at 11:11:49
In reply to Sexual side effects and depression...., posted by CLK on August 11, 2001, at 8:15:07
I agree not being able to have a sex life is unacceptable.
I think there are enough effective medications out there That you should probably be able to find one that works for depression and does not affect your sex life. Tell your doctor that this side
effect is unacceptable and keep trying different
Meds until you find one that works for you.> Okay - this is going to sound whiney and wimpy... but here it goes anyway.
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> I keep hearing people say not to worry about the sexual side effects of the anti-depressant medications. "Deal with the depression first and then worry about your sex life."
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> How exactly do you do that? I mean the health of my marriage is directly related to my mental state. If things are not going well in my marriage this has a direct effect on my depression.
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> How the hell am I supposed to tell my husband that not only does he have to put up with me being a lunatic b*tch, moody, irritable, lethargic, tired, snappish, a terrible housekeeper, the side effects (if any) from the one or more medications I have to try, AND you're not likely to get any for 6 months, a year, two years...
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> Come on. Be realistic. My mom has been on a series of antidepressants for at least a decade. When she stops taking her meds you can TELL - even if she misses just one dose.
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> According to mom her libido has been practically non-existant for 8 years. EIGHT years. Okay she and dad have been married for almost 40 years - so maybe when you are 60 and have been married for forever it doesn't matter as much - but I'm only 32 and we've only been married for 6 years.
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> What exactly do I tell my spouse?
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> Not to mention - what about me? I happen to enjoy having a sex life. I, personally, believe that medication that either lowers my sex drive or interferes with my ability to have an or*asm would be a real 'downer'.
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> I don't mean to sound b*tchy, but really - how do you totally ignore the potential problems?
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