Posted by grapebubblegum on May 30, 2001, at 23:14:22
In reply to Re: to paulk touchee, posted by gilbert on May 30, 2001, at 22:04:20
Y'all are both sort of ignoring what I said (I'm your new best friend Gil, so don't ignore me!)
I don't think there's a conspiracy, Paul, but I think that many people including both halves of many couples don't understand women's sexuality and therefore women do get shortchanged. It's mostly the responsibility of women to speak up for themselves, and it's a complex historical and sociological problem that women don't understand their sexuality AND don't feel entitled to speak up about it even if they do understand it. Like I said, witness the hormonal birth control methods that not only give women a permanent case of PMS, but, as the joke goes, work by making the patient uninterested in sex. Sure, some will say they are just as interested but that's not true sex drive, that's societally conditioned receptivity which differs from having a true female sex drive. Unless you're a female, Paul, you'll just have to take my word for it that I know what I am talking about.
Why do both men and women not make a big deal of the problems caused for women with hormonal birth control or antidepressants? (Remember, brain chemistry affecting depression is closely tied in with progesterone which is why I keep mentioning B.C.; it's like giving women a permanent case of the mental heebie-jeebies to prevent pregancy and I think it's a hellish way to live at worst and a eunuch-like way to live at best) The reason is because traditionally women are recipients of sex and therefore their response/enjoyment is often poo-poohed as insignificant and unimportant. How is male sexual dysfunction treated? With the wildly popular viagra, amongst other popsicle-stick-and-duct-tape-like apparatuses found at the drug store... How is female dysfunction treated? With K-Y.
And finally, since I'm very tired and should go to bed, I have to end on a note of levity, as I like to do. You mentioned, Gil, that pharmaceutical companies would send in hookers to physician's offices to hawk their products if they could... Well, have you ever actually SEEN some of these "representatives"?
(I really hope no one here is employed in that function; if so, please accept my apologies; I couldn't resist.)
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