Posted by Hopeful on May 24, 2001, at 5:54:09
In reply to Re: is anger a sign of depression or.....?, posted by Mike Rubinsek on May 24, 2001, at 1:37:41
I believe (note I said believe) that there could be like you said as a result of past family life some sort of deep seeded problem that keeps your husband "locked in" to that past. If he is the classic ADHD kind of a person then him snapping is not entirely unusual. Seems lots of ADHDs just don't have patience. Part of the condition. Whether he enjoys keeping you in misery could just be a symptom of him having to feel he has "control" over something. Note that he loves the computers, electronic thingys and such. All those things allow him to be "in control" and gives him the "fix" he needs to go on. Understanding is always the beginning to your being able to deal with his personality traits. Remember you married this man for better or for worse. If he is indeed a kind-hearted man then you letting him have his "fix" from the computers and such won't hurt. Granted he needs to give the children the important time and attention that all children need to become healthy balanced future adults. You need to find the balance of how much you are going to allow him to be "himself" and how much you need him to be a dad. It's a tough balancing act because you also want him to be a husband. The thing I always tell my friends who are going through tough times is that they must always remember that "life spares no one the pains and troubles." Being understanding and loving will go a long way in dealing with your situation.
Another important point to remember is that no one and I mean no one ever got better seeing a head doctor without wanting to change. If you show and give him and the children your undying love and support all should workout for the better. Yes, life is not perfect, yet to strive for a good life is a great thing to desire and pursue! Wishing you all the best. Take care.
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