Posted by allisonm on March 15, 2001, at 18:19:11
In reply to General Remeron ? new user, posted by ljc on March 15, 2001, at 9:28:07
ljc,
Gosh, you have an awful lot of stressors on your plate. As you may have read in some earlier posts of mine, Remeron helped me -- especially with sleep -- but not entirely and I'm off it now. Some people it helps a lot. I seem to be treatment resistant. Eliminating the beer should help because that's a depressant. I would ask your pdoc about going up to 45mg if you have been on 30 for awhile to see if it helps. You may also need something to augment the Remeron if you have given it a long-enough trial at a high-enough dose (it can take 6 weeks or more before you may know for sure).
You don't say how long you have been on the Remeron. I was on it when my marriage fell apart and my mother died. Drugs can only help to a point when you are grieving and/or under a lot of stress. They may help put a floor under your feet so that you don't drop farther into the depths, but won't bring you out of what you are feeling until you work or get through it, and only time will remedy that. When I was in the worst stage, my pdoc also gave me Ativan for anxiety because I had been roaming my house sobbing most nights. It helped till I got over some of the pain.
What kind of support system do you have? Friends? Relatives? Are you exercising? Exercise will help, although it can be the hardest thing to try to get yourself to do. What are you doing for yourself? Are you taking time out for yourself? Are you doing nice things for yourself? You mention counseling with your nephew, but are you in counseling/therapy by yourself? This can help you develop coping skills, or at least it helped me get through.
I don't know what else to tell you. I think the better your support system the more easily/quickly you'll get through this, and you WILL get through this.
Come back. There are lots of people here who will listen.
Good luck.
poster:allisonm
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